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Nugget of Wisdom: Love Resistant

2010-06-03T10:58:00.000-04:00

Firefighters will wear fire resist clothing in order to protect them from environments that could harm them. If they didn't sense potential danger there would be no need for the bulky clothes they wear. The bulkiness of the material helps to keep the fire away from their flesh.

Many of us are love fighters not fire fighters. We treat love like a fire. There are parts of us that resist love, because, while it is the truest form of security, it leaves us the most vulnerable. So, to keep from being hurt we will wear bulky personalities that are able to keep the fire of love at a distance from our flesh, our hearts. In turn, it makes us just that--distant. I know you have been hurt before, but in order to be more like God we must fight our own nature that wants us to resist love. Remember: God is love, so, ultimately, when we resist love, we resist God.

In Love,

Byron Jamal

CONGRATULATIONS BRANDON GILLESPIE FOR SUBMITTING YOUR AUDITION TAPE TO THE OPRAH NETWORK!

2010-05-21T16:13:00.000-04:00

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The Greatest Love of All

2010-05-19T11:23:00.000-04:00

This is a wonderful song that truly inspires! Today, remember the greatest love of all.

Excerpt from Unloveable: What Makes Me Unloveable?

2010-05-03T06:52:00.000-04:00

I awaken to darkness, and I write. I don’t write because I want to or have been given some instruction to do so. I am simply writing because I can see. In fact, I feel I am one of the few left who actually see with their true eyes—the eyes of love. Many of us see through some lens of hatred, whether for self or others, because there is something about us that is different. Far too often, difference is seen as deficiency. Our unique divinity is divided with demarcations, boxes and bubbles, forcing us to split ourselves to “fit in” when we are an original design. Whatever stays inside the neat lines we create “fits in,” and it is warmly received with our love. However, the original parts of us that won’t be suppressed and dare to cross our self-constructed lines are seen as unloveable.

So, I cry each night, longing for a world that won’t hate so much what it doesn’t understand. It’s as pointless as hating another planet, because we don’t know what’s on it. It’s like hating heat, because we can’t examine the sun’s core. I cry, knowing that my brothers and sisters—of all colors, creeds and compositions—and I lose control of fragments of our humanity when we are infected by the viral surge of hate. Often, we are infected unaware, driven by its procreator, fear—and offspring—judgment and unforgiveness.

-Excerpt from Unloveable by Byron Jamal

Excerpt from Unloveable: A Stripper Goes to Church

2010-04-30T09:05:00.002-04:00

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We pull up to this stadium called a church. I swear there are more parking spaces here than the basketball arena downtown. It is so big they have police officers and parking attendants directing traffic. There are even letters on the scattered light poles so you can remember where you parked. I look at Nahlia, “Are you sure we are going to a church?”

“Mom, stop being silly.” The attendant directs us down row five of section ‘L.’ As we drive around, I notice all kinds of cars: Range Rovers, Maseratis, Hondas and hoopties. Most of the expensive cars are parked in reserved spaces. “Mom, you’ve driven most of these cars.” There is so much I could say that nothing comes out. I just join her in laughter. We park in the last spot at the end of the row.

As I slam the rusty door shut, Nahlia says, “See, mom, we are dressed just fine for church.” She is right. The woman pushing the stroller is about Nahlia’s height and looks like she might be just a few years older. Her miniskirt has so much thigh showing that I could have worn it on stage any night. I just moan to myself, as I take Nahlia’s hand and grip it tightly.

As we walk past nearly a hundred cars, I can’t help but think that I just changed in a Burger King restroom for this. If I really could have it my way, I would be in a warm Jacuzzi with Epsom salt. Instead, I have to wash my face in the sink of a fast food joint with a ‘C’ rating from the Health Department. Lo and behold, I bump into an old client. This is why I don’t go out on Sunday mornings. I guess he was getting his old man biscuit and coffee before church. Just before he could see me walk out the front door, I pulled my sunhat down over my face and slid my widest and darkest sunglasses on my face.

As we reach the reserved spaces, I notice the same Escalade parked there as the one at Burger King. I freeze. “I can’t do this.”

“Mom, what’s wrong now?”

“I just can’t do this,” I say, shouting as I walk back down the aisle to my rusty, red Chevy.

“Well, where else are we going to go then?” The people passing by were as nosey as expected. Some actually slowed down to try to look at my face.

“What are you looking at sunshine?” I say to the woman dressed in yellow that has slowed down so much I think she is about to take my temperature.

“Stop, mom! You’re embarrassing me,” Nahlia says, running over to me and pulling me between two cars. The woman just speeds up while looking back. I’m pretty sure she was making sure I wasn’t coming after her.

“I’m afraid I might know some people here.” That isn’t normally a problem when you are referring to church, but in my case it is. Nahlia is only nine, but she is sharper than most kids her age.

“If they know you then I guess they will be just as embarrassed, so come on.” She doesn’t even wait for my response before she turns and heads towards the large glass doors of the church. I take a minute and make sure my wig is on straight and my hat and glasses are covering the rest of my face. Realizing that Nahlia has yet to look back, I do my best to walk briskly in my Manolo pumps. What can I say; it is a fashion show after all.

Walking through the doors of the church is odd. These three people are standing there giving out hugs as they welcome everyone inside. I just nod and maneuver around the hugging woman. I haven’t seen cleavage that deep since Kandy Kane got those implants and forgot to buy new clothes before coming to the club. This woman’s breasts are obviously real. They don’t quite have the lift they probably used to when she wasn’t in her late forties.

Nahlia is standing just behind the greeters. I can tell she is frustrated I wouldn’t hug the woman back. “I’m still sore,” is all I say and keep walking. After we make our way past the first line of defense, two ladies are poking out their chests to show their black badges with white letters with one word inscribed: Usher.

I can’t really say I know what an Usher is. I just know she gives us a program of the service and begins to lead us to two open seats. Unfortunately, the seats I have in mind are upstairs in the balcony, but it is too late. Nahlia is practically on the Usher’s heel trying to get seated. As we pass the middle mark of the church, which is a feat by itself, I start to get more nervous. “Ma’am. Ma’am. Excuse me. I’m sure you know how to do your job, but this just isn’t going to work.”

The Usher turns and looks at me cross-eyed, as if I just insulted her whole world. “What’s wrong with up here?”

“Well, it’s too close,” I say without flinching—not that anyone could see it through my hat and glasses. “This is the fourth row.”

“Dear, you are late. Service is halfway over. These are two of the last seats in the building.” I probably should have just sat down, but the choir was up singing “How Great Thou Art” and it wasn’t like people could really hear us with all the noise of the singers and instruments.

“I’m about to sweat already from these stadium concert lights you have, and you’re telling me in this big ‘ole place you can’t find two chairs in the back.”

“Yes, there are two chairs in the back, if you don’t mind sitting on someone’s lap,” she says with a smirk that I want to remove with the back of my hand.

“Look here you little—”

“Mom,” Nahlia says, tugging on my wrist to gain my attention, “I want to sit here. Please?” I can’t even blink hard before the usher is storming past the halfway mark again. I turn back to look at Nahlia and find I am the only one standing here. Nahlia has already said “Excuse me” over a dozen times to get to the seats. It feels like coming into a movie that has already started and trying to take seats in the middle. I bump into several knees before resting my sore hips next to her. She leans over to me, whispering, “Don’t ruin this moment for me,” and sits back up as if her word is final.

I don’t have much tongue left to bite. I’m trying to be on my best behavior considering everything that has just happened.

“YEAH!”

I nearly lose my wig as the whole stadium, including Nahlia, shouts together. The woman beside me springs to her feet and starts hopping like a rabbit on crack. The music flares. She shakes out of her brown coat and begins to sweat, making me think she really is on crack. Her head drops and I see ghetto tracks that no innocent bystander should have to encounter. She swings her arm and narrowly misses my face.

Nahlia just grabs my elbow and says, “Hold it together.” I don’t have to try much longer, the woman is out of breath thirty seconds after she starts. She falls back into her chair, sitting on her coat. As the music dies down, I finally realize the true length of the stage. One of the ministers on the pulpit was running across it and could barely make it to both sides before sitting down looking wet and winded. I guess I would be tired too if I just ran across a stage that is almost as long as a football field.

I begin to smell peppermint, like every woman just snagged a piece from their pocketbooks and unwrapped it. The lights over the stage dim slightly. I am starting to feel a bit confused on whether or not this is a concert or church. Everyone is jumping on their feet and clapping their hands when a fairly young guy comes out wearing a designer suit. It’s the T.V. preacher. He has broad shoulders and athletic frame. With his short cut and goatee, he reminds me of Stain.

He takes the microphone and says, “Good morning church. Today, I’m going to waste no time jumping into the message. I’m going to begin by reading an excerpt from the book I introduced last week. In it the author scribes:

I was great and mighty. I was all things wonderful. I was perfect in every way. Then I lived. That life stalled my successes and scrambled my strength. Life surprised me with tears that followed smiles and screams that chased laughter like a rabid dog. My might was questioned, my greatness in doubt. I sit and wonder who can love me now.

I snatch my program that dropped to the floor when the track lady startled me. I scan for his name. Oh, God. I unglue my eyes from the program and glance back at the guy. I realize there is someone else he looks like too—Nahlia’s father.

Nugget of Wisdom: Purposed to Soar

2010-04-26T08:23:00.001-04:00

Orville and Wilbur, known as the Wright brothers, created the world's first successful airplane. They did research, made the plans, bought the material and, finally, built it. Now, all that was left was to fly. Out of all the things they did up until then, the only dangerous part was flying.

Planes are safest on land, but they were made for the sky. Don’t let fear keep you grounded when your purpose is to fly. God's intent for your design and creation is for you to takeoff and soar!

Taking off,

Byron Jamal

Nugget of Wisdom: Love's Armorbearer

2010-04-12T11:26:00.000-04:00

In the Bible, Kings and generals have officers, known as armorbearers, serving them. These officers are selected because of their bravery to bear their leader's armor and to stand by them in dangerous situations. They would be willing to risk everything to ensure that their leader survived.

I say to you very simply today...Be Love's Armorbearer! Far too often we allow Love to be battered on the battlefield of life. We should take a stand against all of Love's opposition and fight back against those who attacks its existence with words or deeds of bitter hatred. Let Love Live. Wherever you go (work, church, home) YOU have the power.

Serving Love,

Byron Jamal

Nugget of Wisdom: How to Appreciate God

2010-04-05T09:49:00.002-04:00

A rich man went on a quest to find the most elaborate gift for God. While traveling through mountains, deserts, oceans and forests, he finally comes across an old woman who inquires why he looks so frail. When he tells here about his quest, she says, "The one who gives a gift for the child blesses the parent."

The simplest way to appreciate all of God is by appreciating all of God’s creations. The more you can appreciate and love the diversity of others, the more you can appreciate and love the mysterious diversity of God.

Appreciating you,

Byron Jamal

Keep Moving Forward

2010-03-29T11:28:00.001-04:00

CONSISTENT steps in the RIGHT direction are what make the difference between failure and success. Even if they are slow steps, painful steps, even hesitant steps...just keep moving forward. Your destiny awaits!

Nugget of Wisdom: Hopeful When Helpless

2010-03-29T09:48:00.001-04:00

Two sheep were separated from the flock while traveling through the woods. Unsure of which way to go to rejoin the others, the two sheep must determine what to do next. The larger sheep says, "We're helpless out here. We might as well decide what we will do until we die." The smaller sheep says, "We're not helpless. We just need to survive until the Shepherd comes for us."

Just because you feel helpless doesn’t mean you should feel hopeless. There’s always hope even if you can’t see the help. You may feel like a defenseless sheep in your situation, but remember that God is a Shepherd who always returns for the lost sheep. So, don't lose hope in your crisis; the Shepherd is coming.

Hopeful,

Byron Jamal

Nugget of Wisdom: The Certainty of Success

2010-03-22T08:11:00.000-04:00

Nelson Mandela was an anti-apartheid activist, which led to his 27 years in prison. After his release, he worked toward the reconciliation that helped lead the transition toward multi-racial democracy in South Africa. Four years later, he is serving five years as the first South-African president to be elected in a fully representative democratic election.

This underscores the truth that success is not relegated by how many wins you have under your belt; it is mandated by purpose and secured by destiny. Stopping is the only way you can’t succeed. Don't quit! Your success is certain.

Certain of Success,

Byron Jamal

Nugget of Wisdom: Just Love Me

2010-03-15T08:51:00.000-04:00

Truth can be a powerful tool or a dangerous weapon, because it is often based on one's perception of their reality. The argument of truth was used to both support slavery and the free the slaves. A man's truth led to the sexism; a woman's truth pointed to feminism.

These and other interpretations of supposed "truth" occur every day. They lead to many of our disagreements and misunderstandings. In dealing with others remember that you cannot demand that someone change what they believe to be true or false. You can only demand that they love you despite their belief.

Loving in spite of,

Byron Jamal

Nugget of Wisdom: Overcoming the Discouragement of the Present

2010-03-08T08:57:00.000-05:00

On his way to a party, a man passes by a homeless boy who looks hungry. He stops and asks the boy if he would like to come to the party as his guest; however, the boy, feeling his attire wouldn't fit the occasion, rejects the man's offer.

We can allow our pasts to hinder our progress. Like this boy, dirt and all other forms of defilement can make us feel hesitant to attain what is purposed for us. You could be like the prodigal son, sitting in the pig pen of your life, but don't let where you are discourage you from looking toward where you’re going. Get up and believe that where you are is necessary for the place you're about to walk into.

Determined,

Byron Jamal

Nugget of Wisdom: Look Both Ways

2010-03-01T11:07:00.000-05:00

When I was first learning to drive and approached my first intersection, the driving instructor told me to look left, right and then left again. I asked why do I look left twice and right only once? He said, "You are going to get hit by the car that's left far more often than the one that's right. So, you need to look out for what's left more often so you are safe."

Crossing the street can be much like our relationships, we are more prone to encounter what is left than what is right. Make sure that in the process of finding the right people to interact with you don't settle for the ones that are left. Look both ways, but look left more to avoid preventable injuries.

Looking,

Byron Jamal

Nugget of Wisdom: The Significance of Scars

2010-02-22T09:40:00.000-05:00

I still have a scar under my lip from a childhood accident. I used to let my facial hair grow over it to hide it, because I didn't want people to see my scar. As I matured, I realized that the scar that I once wanted to hide was better than the pain of an open wound. I've been hurt many times, but my life changed when I learned to stop being wounded and accept the scar.

Many of us, due to familiarity, would rather maintain old wounds than receive new scars. We will stay in situations where we are wounded repeatedly instead of walking away so the scar can form. A scar may not be attractive but at least it signifies closure. So, thank God for scars! They are indicators of your ability to survive and move on.

Scarred,

Byron Jamal

Nugget of Wisdom: Revealed in the Stretch

2010-02-15T10:34:00.000-05:00

The traditional rubber band can seem small and unassuming, leaving one to ask, "How can this little thing be of any use?" It seems like an appropriate question only until it is stretched, applying stress until it is pulled beyond its original dimensions. What once was small in diameter augments exponentially, exposing more of its purpose and potential.

Much like a rubber band, your worth is discovered when you are stretched, not at rest. Often, our first inclination is to think of stress as something negative, but when we are stretched our true potential is unveiled. A life with no stress or "stretch" is one where you continue to operate limited by the familiarity of where you are, hindering your ability to discover how far your purpose was meant to expand. There are times for rest, but your potential is made known in the stretch.

Being stretched,

Byron Jamal

Nugget of Wisdom: Don't Let Your Title Be Your Total

2010-02-09T20:00:00.002-05:00

Throughout time God is called by many names: Creator, Lord, Yahweh, etc. The reason for so many names is because God is so diverse. That's why when Moses asked God who he should say sent him, God answered, "I am who I am...Tell the people that I AM has sent you" (Exodus 3:14). God just is. God is so divine there is no title that can fully capture all of God's nature or character.

We are a spiritual beings, connected to the eternal. Like God, your divinity demands diversity, so don't let your title be your total. Whether you are a doctor, pastor, artist or parent, never allow a label attached to you (whether positive or negative) to define you. You are bigger than any one box or title to which you can ascribe. There is more to you, but you will only limit your potential by settling for the titles that can't contain your total.

Just am,

Byron Jamal, CEO
The Call Path
www.thecallpath.com

Nugget of Wisdom: True Beauty is Sensed Not Seen

2010-02-01T11:47:00.000-05:00

An elementary school principal notices that one of his 3rd grade students always brings an egg with a blue ring around it to school. One day, the girl trips, drops the egg in the hallway and begins to cry. When the principal finds out he goes to see about her. He walks up to her and asks, "Why are you crying so hard? You only dropped an egg?" Between her sobs she replies, "I’m not crying because I dropped it. I’m crying because I didn’t know it was rotten inside.”

Many of us are easily smitten by things that are perceived as externally beautiful. We can end up like this girl, carefully carrying fragile eggs that are rotten inside. We are enticed by the exterior and pray the interior can live up to the standard. When it doesn't, we realize we have a beautiful rotten egg. Be more anxious to take someone who loves than someone lovely, someone who expresses beauty than someone who is solely beautiful. True beauty cannot be scanned with eyes; it must be sensed with the heart.

Sensing beauty,

Byron Jamal

Nugget of Wisdom: Seeing Beyond Conditions

2010-01-29T10:38:00.000-05:00

The Bible is littered with stories about people who have conditions: the adulterous woman, the leprous men, the paralytic, the beggar, and the adulterous woman. We know none of these people's names. This is often how we treat other people, based on their condition not their name (purpose or true worth/identity).

You can take assurance in this truth: Yes! God sees your condition, but God knows you by your name not your condition. While people are often quick to judge you based on what is seen, God sees but handles you based on what God knows of what you are and will be. What would happen if we thought more like God and allowed our love for the person to override our judgment of the person's plight? Live knowing that God knows your name!

Seeing beyond sight,

Byron Jamal

Are You Listening with Kirk Franklin & Friends Haiti Relief Song

2010-01-28T14:07:00.003-05:00

This song was recording at the 2010 Stellar Awards as a reaction to the disastrous effects of the earthquake in Haiti. Kirk Franklin stood up during the BMI Trailblazer's Award and urged all the Gospel artists to come together and support Haiti with a song that assisted Haiti's rebuilding process. This song was recorded, produced and released in just a little over a week. Enjoy, and continue to pray for Haiti!

You can donate at UnicefUSA.org.

NH teacher, 100, Gets Degree a Day Before Dying

2010-01-27T12:00:00.001-05:00

The story that follows should inspire and motivate anyone who feels like it might be too late to achieve a lifelong goal. The truth is that the main force that is holding you back is YOU! So get out of your way!

CONCORD, N.H. – It was Harriet Richardson Ames' dream to earn her bachelor's degree in education. She finally reached that milestone, nearly three weeks after achieving another: her 100th birthday.

On Saturday, the day after receiving her diploma at her bedside, the retired schoolteacher died, pleased that she had accomplished her goal, her daughter said. Ames had been in hospice care.

"She had what I call a 'bucket list,' and that was the last thing on it," Marjorie Carpenter said Tuesday.

Ames, who turned 100 on Jan. 2, had earned a two-year teaching certificate in 1931 at Keene Normal School, now Keene State College. She taught in a one-room schoolhouse in South Newbury, and later spent 20 years as a teaching principal at Memorial School in Pittsfield, where she taught first-graders.

Through the years, she had taken classes at the University of New Hampshire, Plymouth Teachers College and Keene State to earn credits for her degree. With her eyesight failing, she stopped after retiring in 1971 and was never sure if she had enough credits.

Her wish for a degree became known when a Keene State film professor interviewed her a couple of years ago for a piece on the college's own centennial, which the school celebrated last year.

The school decided to research her coursework and see if it could award Ames her long-sought diploma. The offices of the provost, registrar and other departments worked quickly in the last month to determine, that indeed, it could.

"She wanted to be the best that she could be," said Norma Walker, coordinator of the Keene State College Golden Circle Society, an alumni group for classes that graduated 50 or more years ago.

Walker said when she mentioned to Ames during a recent visit that the college was working on the degree, Ames started to cry and said, "'If I die tomorrow, I'll know I'll die happy, because my degree's in the works.'"

College officials, including Walker, drove the document to Ames' bedside on Friday.

Walker, who first met Ames in 1997 at an alumni gathering, said she enjoyed listening to her talk about her students and how she encouraged them to read.

"She's the kind of person that every parent would want their first-graders to have as a teacher," very loving and caring, Walker said. She will read Ames' diploma at a memorial service this Saturday, "if I can do it without crying."

Paula Finnegan Dickinson of Gilford, who was Ames' student back in 1956 and became an educator herself, regarded her as a mentor and dear friend.

"Mrs. Ames, along with Dick, Jane, Sally, Spot and Puff, became our friend," Dickinson said, recalling the "Dick and Jane" series that was used in class reading groups. "With her enthusiasm, these characters came to life. ... Mrs. Ames showed us how reading opened the doors to other experiences we in Pittsfield might never have known."

Nugget of Wisdom: Taxi Before Takeoff

2010-01-26T06:53:00.000-05:00

I remember boarding a plane one day and waiting for it to take off at its appointed time. Time is approaching, but we still aren't leaving. Finally, the captain tells the passengers, "Sorry for the delay. We are getting ready for takeoff." However, we don't just takeoff then; we taxi to the runway first.

Your destiny can be much like a plane ride, taxi before takeoff. We feel like once all of the obstacles and hindrances are moved out of the way, we should be able to just take off into the heights of our purpose. However, life is rarely like that. For most of us, we still require transition time from where we boarded or gained understanding of our purpose and actually takeoff into it. Don’t be so impatient to get off the ground that you takeoff before you taxi. You could end up doing more damage to your destiny than just being delayed.

Preparing for Takeoff,

Byron Jamal

Live On Purpose, With Purpose

2010-01-22T15:12:00.005-05:00

A glass of water is sitting on a counter. You see it. It's just there minding its own business. You slide your hand across the top of the surface and knock the glass on to the floor, shattering it into sharp shiny pieces, spilling its contents. Someone standing across the room observes the whole thing. You look up at this person who is staring at you like you have lost your mind. They ask you, "why did you do that?" Your reply, "It was an accident."
Sounds kind of silly, right? How do you accidentally take aim on an object and using force, knock it over and then say it was an accident? It's safe to assume that to most rational thinking people, this would not be considered an accident, but intentionally done...on purpose.

What can be deemed as most valuable and precious in this life, does not happen nor is it sustained by accident or wishful thinking. If you have a good relationship, a prosperous business, or good grades in school, it's not simply due to a string of good luck. It's because you made a decision to be successful in that particular area of life. In a recent discussion I had with a friend about where he was in life, he talked about how his whole existence has been filled with obstacles, disappointments, and heart ache, and he felt a sense of despair, not really knowing what to do. My response to him was that if he was beat down by the cares of life, he needed to make a decision if he was going to stay down because of it, or if he was going to get up in spite of it.

Have you ever seen someone trip and stand? The truth is, anyone can fall, but NO ONE accidently gets up. What things do you say and do, on purpose? Perhaps, the better question is , what things do you say and do with purpose? There are things we all do that are planned and calculated, but too often the words we've spoken, or the actions we've taken have been on purpose, but not with purpose.

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Let 2010 be the year you are productive (yielding fruit), not just busy.

What company exists with a mission to just be busy... to have alot of traffic in their store, alot of shoppers on their aisles, and no one buying anything? How long can they stay in business? If you are going to go through the trouble of making an effort, AIM at something that matters! We can all be ensared with the trap of busy work, but this isn't the year to carelessly exert time and energy, or invest in things that will not produce anything. One element of life that is faithful if nothing else is, is TIME. It doesn't matter what happens to you today, however tragic or wonderful, the saying is so true, "Time Waits For No Man." Time will keep trucking even when your will or desire breaks down.
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This year, The Call Path makes a promise to you to be instrumental in inspiring you, not only by showcasing individuals who are living in their purpose, but also having important discussions with you about yours.

Anthony Edward

Nugget of Wisdom: What is True Love

2010-01-22T07:39:00.002-05:00

In order for newborn baby birds to eat, their mother will eat some food and regurgitate it into their mouth. When they get a little older, she will bring them whole food. She takes out of her own mouth something that she could use for her own sustenance and gives it to the ones she loves.

Many of us look for love in what is given, but true love is in what is given up. It's not in the gift; it's in the sacrifice. Love is shown when we can take from our own mouths and feed others so they can grow and develop, remembering that someone once had to feed us too. Anyone can give a gift, but love is validated by a gift that has greater worth than the price tag.

Sacrificing Love,

Byron Jamal

STANDOUT Style for the New Year

2010-01-21T20:30:00.006-05:00

So it’s a happy new year and hopefully a happy new YOU! We’re stepping into a new year and a new decade – exciting! I personally don’t make New Year’s resolutions because I forget what they are by Feb 1st. Instead I continue to focus on enhancing myself in every way, mainly internal attributes, but also my goals and of COURSE finding new ways to consistently revamp my style.

I’m going to share with you some not-so-secret tips to help develop the ‘standout’ style and image you’ve always desired or maybe have but want to continue improving: Get rid of every ill-fitting article of clothing you have in your closet! Be it your favorite vintage tee, too short, suffocating nightlife dress (ladies), spandex shirts (men), old, unstructured shoes, tattered belts, oversized jackets and coats etc. Nothing is less flattering than being garbed in what appears VERY uncomfortable, no matter how “cute” you think you look.

Gentlemen, have your clothes tailored for your size and build, especially suits and high quality dress shirts. Nothing is more flattering when YOU wear the suit, not the other way around. This can be used for office environments and for casual, dressed down suits. Try wearing your new well- fitting suit and tie with a tee or nice sweater and maybe some stylish sneakers.

Ladies, on the same note you want to adorn yourself in garments that flatter and enhance your physique, not expose it. You should also invest in tailored suits – every woman is not built the same so it’s important to accentuate your form properly. You want to appear confident in your being and appearance, not as if your appearance is blatantly begging “PLEASE STARE AT ME!” Stay away from trends! Ok well maybe not all of them but don’t try all of them! Everything you see on television and in magazines isn’t made for you simply because it’s the hottest new look. Know your body and frame and what highlights them. Tip: Transform a trend to work for you! For example skinny jeans on men. If you aren’t skinny or don’t have the build for skinny leg jeans, try straight leg jeans cuffed or un-cuffed. Paired with a well fit top you’ll achieve the slim and fresh-fashion look. For ladies, if you’re into the tights and cigarette pant look, the same look can be achieved with various new washes of denim and heavier materials instead of Lycra and spandex. Or compliment them with chic sweater, jacket or dress.

Finally, an almost fail proof way to give you that “brand new” appeal is to infuse new styles and looks into your wardrobe. As we age, many of us get set into a certain look that becomes expected of us and is frankly a bit bland. Tip: SHAKE THINGS UP! Try new colors, new suit/dress styles, infuse hats and accessories, different styles of shoes, and even new layering techniques. And invest in quality statement pieces, such as an exquisitely crafted timepiece, luxuriously made shoes (that DO last longer), or even a fine overcoat that fits you quite nicely. Remember, you usually get what you pay for!

The most important thing is to be honest with yourself and be sure that you shine within because that’s where true happiness emanates from. Wear what truly enhances your appearance and personality and makes you feel like a million bucks and more importantly, what makes you smile.

Kenny Hibbler, Contributing Writer

Rebrand Yourself

2010-01-21T20:10:00.005-05:00

Did you know that YOU are a BRAND? Yes, you are a brand. Your ideas, your beliefs, your morals, your behaviors, and even your appearance make up your own "Personal Brand". Given that, what type of brand would you consider yourself? Would you be considered Old Spice, or some expensive sounding Eau de Toilette? Would you measure up to be a Five-Star or a Less-Than-a-Star brand?

With the start of a New Year only days behind us, reflect on Your "Personal Brand" and determine if it is in need of retooling. Corporations do it all the time. KFC….err…Kentucky Grilled Chicken, recently decided to redesign its logo and healthier food items to reach out to more health conscious consumers. Some companies evolve by modifying their name or completely changing it. Some seek change by embracing new lifestyles that widen their consumer reach. And then there are some that stay the same forever.

Perhaps you don't need to change at all. However, I suspect that many of us might have one or two things that we want or need to tweak. So how do you resuscitate your Personal Brand? Well that is something that you have to figure out on your own.

But maybe these questions can steer you in the direction of renewal:

What does my Personal Brand reflect, and am I happy with that? If I am not happy with what my Personal Brand reflects, what would I like to see changed?
Does my Personal Brand have a positive or negative impact on my life? How about other people?
Does my Personal Brand align with my core values (In other words, are you who you say you are and or what you believe)?
Do you value your Personal Brand?
Do you have stock in your Personal Brand? (Do you invest in things that allow you to enhance your physical, psychological, or spiritual well-being)?

After answering these questions (and maybe some of your own) consider necessary improvements for your Personal Brand. Remember that change does not happen overnight, but instead in a series of small manageable steps. Even the caterpillar must crawl before soaring as a butterfly. I look forward to seeing your brand shine in the new decade!

Brandon Gillespie, Contributing Writer

ON CALL: Our Path Has Crossed Again, Could It Be Fate?

2010-01-21T20:06:00.000-05:00

I ran into someone who I shared very intense and romantic feelings with a number of years back. After a little catching up, it was clear that both of us still seemed to have some type of chemistry for the other. Since then, we've spoken and seen each other from time to time, but had agreed to take things slow and see where they went. Well recently, for no apparent reason, this person just drops off the face of the Earth and will not respond to my texts, return my calls, deleted me from their Facebook... I was left trying to figure out what happened, what did I do wrong. About a week later, this person calls and says they are sorry and needed some time to clear their minds but they are cool now. No explanation was given, but they seemed ready to proceed like business as usual. I will admit that I was relieved to hear from this individual because I honestly felt like perhaps it was meant for us to reconnect at this particular space in time. Yet even in my excitement, there is this nagging feeling about the way they just kind of flaked out like that. Is it something I bring up, ignore? Do I proceed, leave them alone???? Please help!

- Is This Meant to Be?
Chicago, IL

New Year, New You

2010-01-21T19:59:00.009-05:00

“Don’t worry about anything: instead, pray about everything. Tell God your needs and don’t forget to thank him for his answers. If you do this, you will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will keep your thoughts and your hearts quiet and at rest as you trust in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:6-7 TLB).

I heard a story about Thomas A. Edison. On a cold winter night, his factory, which housed all of his dreams and practical realities, burned. Everything was destroyed. His records, blueprints, formulas and notes lay in ashes.The 67-year-old inventor stood and watched everything he had ever worked for go up in flames. The next morning he looked at the ruins and said there was value in disaster because all the mistakes were burned up. Then he thanked God he could begin anew.

What a wonderful perspective this man had about life. His attitude made all the difference. So does ours. Things can appear to be disastrous at first. A financial failure, illness or any number of losses can make our personal dreams go sour. Whether or not these things destroy us depends on our outlook. We have a chance to begin again. “With God, all things are possible” (Mark 10:27). We can learn from past failures. We become wiser while finding a different approach for the future.

Despite the futility of most people's new year’s resolutions, a new year does give an opportunity to start over. What is past is just that … past.Time wasted in reliving the past and time worrying about the future is counterproductive and a lesson in futility to say the least. God meets you where you are. He supplies a day at a time and he gives instructions for living it.It is a pitiful existence to stop living because of past mistakes. A repentant child of God finds forgiveness, healing and hope. Repentance requires a change in behavior and the change can begin today. The repentant soul’s hope is not in a wretched past, but that soul looks to God’s hope of new beginnings.

Doing good to others is a great start to a new beginning. In giving yourself away by blessing others, you will find happiness returns to you. All the material things in the world are simply a cheap substitute for unselfishness, kindness and love for others. Be blessed in the New Year. May God’s love inspire you, and may his angels surround you. Whatever the circumstances, be hopeful, for God is on your side. Look on the bright side and live one day at a time. Be thankful for things money cannot buy … love, family, friends and a loving God.Let us look forward to 2010 with strong faith, optimism and enthusiasm.

A. L. Lofton, Contributing Writer

Health & Wellness: Positive Thinking, Healthy Living

2010-01-21T19:36:00.006-05:00

One of the most important keys to success in life is understanding the power of our thoughts. While the old saying, "we are what we eat" may hold some truth, it can also be said that we certainly are what we think. Our thoughts have a great effect on us even though they may never be shared or expressed. What we think, affects our emotions, attitudes and behavior, and ultimately the way we live our lives.

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Positive Thinking and its Effects on the Body
A change in our mindset and way of thinking can benefit our overall health and well being. That's right, by creating a more positive way of thinking, we can greatly improve our health. Here are just a few ways having a positive mental attitude brings about positive effects in your body:

fewer headaches
reduced stress
lower blood pressure
reduced anxiety
healthier weight

When you create a more positive way of thinking, you may instantly begin to notice a decrease in headaches. This is because headaches are often brought on due to extremely high amounts of stress and pressure. When we have a more positive mindset, we will worry less, which means less stress.

Stress is one of the leading causes of anxiety and panic attacks. Once you start to get your stress levels under control, you should notice a reduction of the level of anxiety you experience and potentially eliminate panic attacks all together.

Positive thinking can help reduce your blood pressure as well. What is the first thing that happens when you get angry? Your blood pressure rises! By practicing positive thinking, you can learn how to release that anger and frustration. Battling the bulge? Did you know that positive thinking can have a great impact on your weight as well? Most people with weight issues also tend to suffer from low-self esteem, most of which is brought on by their own negative thoughts.

Positive thinking really is a choice and once you experience a level of mastery in this area, you’ll even find your words to be more positive and affirming as you release them into the atmosphere. There is power in your thought life (for good or bad) Harnessing that power for good will develop creativity, prosperity and healing. We all have many thoughts that swim through the sea of our minds. While you can't do much about what passes through it, just be sure that the thoughts that you do capture and keep are the ones that feed healthy and happy living, because those will be the thoughts you eat.

Kira Buckley, Contributing Writer

Nugget of Wisdom: God Is In Your Process

2010-01-20T07:34:00.000-05:00

Have you ever washed some filthy clothes? Standing at the washer with the detergent in your hands, maybe you were like me, wondering: "How could a little of this clean all of these clothes?" As the machine fills with water and begins to spin, the detergent activates and expands, covering everything to make it better than before.

God is much like detergent. God may not be the author of confusion, but God can still work in the midst of it. God doesn't make you dirty, but God knows how to work in the midst of your dirt to make you clean in the process. You may be stuck in a desperate, doubtful or distressing situation; however, just remember God's power to expand and cover, to step into any storm and command "Peace."

In the process,

Byron Jamal

Nugget of Wisdom: In Pursuit of Pressure

2010-01-15T03:53:00.000-05:00

As I was driving up a mountain, I began to feel pressure on my ears. The higher I went the more pressure that was applied. The pressure was an indication that I was moving to a higher elevation and it was time to adjust. The pressure caused me discomfort and limited my hearing. So, if I was going to keep progressing up the mountain, I had two choices: adjust to relieve the pressure or ignore it and bring my old self to a new place (with the pain attached).

Too often we see the pressures of life as an attack. The truth is that pressure isn’t an attack; it’s a byproduct of progression. Pressure informs you that you aren't just moving forward, but you are moving upward. It can seem like an attack, because pressure limits your potential until you make the proper adjustments. However, those adjustments are really enhancements to enable you to succeed at the new level you have attained. Don't let pressure push you away from your higher purpose. Let it be the fuel that keeps you pressing ahead, knowing it's a sign that you are going in the right direction. As you mature, you will start looking for pressure as a confirmation of your call.

Celebrating Life's Pressures,

Byron Jamal, CEO
The Call Path
www.thecallpath.com

Presentation Tips

2010-01-14T17:08:00.001-05:00

While what you say is very important, most often it’s the non-verbal cues you give that will determine how the audience responds to your presentation. Your body language, the subtle movements and gestures you make as you speak, is crucial. The right body language can help you build a rapport with your audience, and add impact to your content. But, the wrong body language can make your presentation less effective.

Here are a few important tips to keep in mind whenever you’re giving a presentation:

1. Keep Your Eyes on the Audience
Nothing conveys confidence and authority more than direct eye contact. Failure to look at the people you’re presenting to may give the impression that you’re insecure, or even worse, dishonest. What’s the key to maintaining eye contact throughout your presentation? Preparation! Know your content well, so you can look at your audience instead of your notes or slides.

2. Avoid “Blocking”
Certain gestures – like crossing your arms, putting your hands in your pockets, or standing behind a podium or laptop – can make you appear standoffish or unfriendly, and hinder your ability to connect with your audience. This type of body language is known as “blocking”, and should be avoided at all costs. Instead, walk around the room and try to use deliberate hand gestures to emphasize what you’re saying.

3. Smiles and Other Facial Expressions
While all types of facial expressions can help you stress key points, and should be used for emphasis wherever possible, the most powerful one in your arsenal is your smile. Nothing relaxes an audience and builds rapport faster. Unless the content of your presentation is somber in nature, which would make smiling inappropriate, smile as often as possible. This is particularly important when presenting over the Web – believe it or not, those listening really will hear it in your voice.

4. Be Aware of Your Posture
Presenters need to be commanding, and demonstrate an air of authority in order to gain credibility with their audience. Therefore, slouching, leaning, and shifting your weight from one leg to another is not the ideal way to stand as you speak. Keeping your back straight and your shoulders up will convey your confidence to attendees.

5. Your Attire Really Does Matter
Whether it is more appropriate to dress in formal wear, or business casual attire is debatable, and depends greatly on who your audience is. But, whatever outfit you choose, make sure your clothing is not distracting. Avoid bright colors, busy patterns, noisy jewelry, and other items that may draw the eye, or make it difficult for the audience to hear you as you’re speaking.

* Article originally posted by Slide Rocket.com

Nugget of Wisdom: Growing Up vs. Out

2010-01-13T02:01:00.000-05:00

Tom Hanks' movie, "Big," features a boy who uses a magic wish machine to wish himself bigger. When he wakes up the next morning, he finds that he is now an adult. The problem is that wish didn't enhance him mentally when it augmented his physical body. So, he is simply a child in an adult body.

Have you ever wished that you were bigger, that you were further along the path towards your destiny? Maybe you are seeking swift advancements, hoping to bypass steps on your path. You want to avoid the growing pains and awkward phases of your path's adolescence. However, life soon teaches that fast growth isn't the same as maturity. Your true concern should be about growing up not out. Don't become a child in an adult purpose. Appreciate the stages of development. Each one makes you stronger and wiser, ultimately preparing you for the greater purpose that is to come.

Growing in Purpose,

Byron Jamal

Nugget of Wisdom: For Love, I Surrender

2010-01-11T08:43:00.000-05:00

When two opposing forces are in battle, there will come a point when the side that is apparently losing has the choice to keep fighting towards death or surrender and live. The ones who choose to die will do so because of honor and love (of country, family, etc.). Those that choose to live will do so because they love living.

Love and surrender are two sides of the same coin; whatever you love you will surrender for. Many of us look for displays of love in what is given, but a true showcase of love is in what is given up. Love makes you willing to surrender all, even if all is your life. How much are you willing to give up for what you love (person, place, thing or idea/dream/vision)?

Fully surrendered,
Byron Jamal

Higher Than This - Ledisi

2010-01-09T17:20:00.001-05:00

This is Ledisi's song, "Higher Than This," a song that stresses there is no love higher than God's. We can move on our Call Path in Love, because we are always recipients of love--God's. Enjoy the two (2) parts listed below. I hope they encourage and empower you to move ahead with great joy.

Nugget of Wisdom: Free From History

2010-01-07T09:13:00.000-05:00

Slavery is not just physically oppressive, but it creates a mental shackle as well. Every slave that is bound sees the physical restraint, which sets both physical and psychological limiations on their potential. Few slaves refuse to allow their shackles to shackle their hope, will and expectation. Slaves that escape their masters and start new lives are considered runaways.

Have you runaway yet? Have you escaped whatever is in your past? This freedom is not just the physical kind, but it also requires you to be free mentally from what had you bound. You can't start a new life until you're fully free from your old one. Before you can start making history you must be free from it. Your greatness is just waiting on you to shake loose the shackles of your past and progress ahead with faith and not fear.

Living Free,
Byron Jamal

Nugget of Wisdom: When to Reset

2010-01-05T08:49:00.004-05:00

The only time an alarm clock should be blinking is when it has recently lost power. Any other time, its lighted numbers stay static and unaltered. Though you can still see the numbers if the clock is blinking, it probably needs to be reset, because the time displayed is wrong.

If you have experienced something that has jolted your entire world, then you know what it means to lose power. No matter how long you are disconnected, power loss requires that you take time to reset. It may have only been a flicker, but when the power comes back on, when you gain your footing again, if you don't take time to reset, there will be this blinking essence coming from you that is apparent to everyone but you. It will say to the world: "I've recently been disconnected from my power source."

You might have finished last year blinking, but take the time to heal in 2010. Reset those emotions of doubt, pain, anger and bitterness. Don't deceive yourself into thinking all is well. Just as you reset a clock by comparing it to a more accurate clock, you must align yourself with others who can serve as a comparison to help you reset in the New Year.

Helping You Reset,

Byron Jamal

WE HAVE A BIG ANNOUNCEMENT!!!

2010-01-02T23:49:00.001-05:00

We are so excited to announce and present our new CALL PATH website! This is just one of the many wonderful things that you can expect from The Call Path in 2010. Visit often to keep up on all the different projects, announcements, and upcoming events.

Moving Forward - Israel Houghton

2009-12-31T16:18:00.000-05:00

With only hours left in 2009, let us look to the start of new year and decade with renewed hope and determination. None can rewind the clock to alter what has already passed but we all can move forward toward the destiny that can only be fully realized on our Call Path.

Happy New Year!
Phil 3:12-14

Nugget of Wisdom: Be Shelter Not The Storm

2009-12-28T11:28:00.000-05:00

We are individuals...unique. We have different standards. We see things differently. We feel things differently, and we express those feelings differently. That means we won't always agree. We fuss. We fight. We argue. We breakup. We go our separate ways. Such is life. It is as expected as turmultous storms battering the Gulf Coast.

However...

With all that makes us different...unique...individual, we are still HUMAN. We are flesh and blood, with hearts beating, brains computing and lungs taking in the same air. So, as we unashamedly express what makes us uncommon, let us not forget to cover others with Love. Storms will arise in human interaction, but to others, be shelter not the storm.

Creating Shelter,

Byron Jamal

We Are Christmas - Spelman College Glee Club

2009-12-24T17:46:00.005-05:00

This is the Spelman College Glee Club singing an amazing rendition of "We Are Christmas," which reminds us of the true meaning of Christmas. Merry Christmas from the Call Path Family to you and yours.

Nugget of Wisdom: Love is God

2009-12-23T11:04:00.000-05:00

For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son. John 3:16a KJV

We are told that God is love (1 John 4:8). That means Love is God. So, when God presented Jesus to the world, God was not merely loving the world, God was sending love into the world. Jesus IS God's Love.

Love is not just an action or feeling; it is an entity, a presence yearning for expression. Love is God, for God is love. When we celebrate Jesus, we do so with us in mind, knowing that God also creates us as a grand display of God’s love, and the power inside of us stems from that love, a great love we must not fear. For, if we fear true love it is only because we fear the true essence of God. God is Love.

Nugget of Wisdom: Creation Confirms Purpose

2009-12-21T09:41:00.000-05:00

The fly is often seen as just an annoying insect that helps to spread diseases and ruin perfectly good outdoor meals; however, even the fly has a positive purpose. They are food for many birds, reptiles and amphibians, and they serve us by aiding in decomposition.

Like flies, we all have parts of us that can be seen as negative and annoying to others. Even with those characteristics, bad parts don't negate broad purpose. Creation is a confirmation of purpose, so don't let the pieces of you that aren't as easily accepted stop you from believing in the necessity of your function in the Earth.

ON CALL: Is That Opportunity Knocking?

2009-12-17T23:13:00.003-05:00

Early this year, I had an offer to go to Africa. I turned it down because I would have been gone for 3 months. Shortly after that, I moved to Colorado for a frest start. Since I have been here, things have been going extremely slow for me and once again the opportunity to go to Africa has represented itself. I'm confused and not sure what to do. Can you give me some advice?

- Opportunity Knocks
Denver, Colorado

The Gift: Great Gift Ideas for Everyone

2009-12-17T22:41:00.005-05:00

Kenneth Hibbler, Contributing Writer

“Christmas time is here. Happiness and cheer…” we all know the words from Charlie Brown’s Christmas. While these words embody the season, the last few year or so have been tough. Christmas for many is synonymous with buying numerous gifts, racking up debt or family stress, especially with the unemployment rate on the rise.

So let’s say you’re in the holiday spirit, yet your pockets are still feeling the recession. Whatever will you do? Easy!

Here are some trendy, stand-out and affordable gifts for the recessionista who’s trying to put a smile on the faces of a few loved ones on Christmas day:

Mother: One of the hottest trends lately is GREEN: going green, being green, everything GREEN. For the sake of the Earth and for the sake of your wallets, present your nurturing mother with a surprisingly stylish all natural tote made of recycled water bottles. The Nordstrom Slouchy Eco Tote w/ bonus designed pouch is richly detailed, machine washable, and on’t break your bank! Hint: I suggest the yellow or green one. $21.99

Where to buy: http://shop.nordstrom.com/

Father: The fashion and style sense of our fathers seems to remain consistent through the years, whether we admire it or not. For a father, I suggest taking a non-conventional route and purchasing hats, vintage ties, or accessories from local second hand stores, such as Buffalo Exchange and even the Goodwill. With determination and a sharp eye you can find some one-of-a-kind (it will seem that way) clothing item that your dad can proudly show off and say “My kid got me this for Christmas!” $1-$20
Where to buy: local second hand stores

Significant other:

Her: Your special someone should already know that anything you give her comes from the heart, but what better way than to say it! The Love Note Necklace from Urban Outfitters not so subtly reminds her with a novelty note in mixed metals and ceramics. $18.

Where to buy: http://www.urbanoutfitters.com/

Him -I had the opportunity to review a book by a young suave brother by the name of Enitan Bereola. His literary offering, bearing his namesake, is a necessary self paced course on age old chivalry but for the young and fresh. Bereolaesque: The Contemporary Gentleman & Etiquette Book for the Urban Sophisticate – A cunningly formatted personal style and etiquette ‘manual’ chock full of tips on how to win the girl and look good while doing it (all the while turning the heads of all other girls and earning the respect of your fellow man!) $23.99.

Where to buy: http://www.authorhouse.com/

Best Friend: If your friends are like my friends, they are fashionistas and trendsetter in their own right. For all bohemian, haute couture, utilitarian, and countless other sartorial styles and fashion fodder, give her/him the “Fashion Bible”: VOGUE. “Gifting” Vogue will give you a free subscription that can be given as an extra gift to your co-worker or other recessionistas you want to impress! $29.

Where to buy: http://www.vogue.com/

Child: Ahhh! Christmas really is all about the kids (and those of us who are still big kids!). So you have to make sure you hit the bull’s eye with this one! Not to worry! Almost every single retailer will gladly let you know what the hottest toys are. It’s simply up to you to select based on the child’s likes and your budget. One of my favorite is the LeapFrog Text and Learn ‘game’ that looks like an oversized, hyper-neon pda. Besides giving the kiddos a chance to act like an adult, it comes with a subscription to Disney Family Fun! $14.99.

Where to buy: http://www.toysrus.com/

Co-worker: One of the coolest items I’ve seen on the market is the Retro Block IPod Speaker. What’s neater than having your favorite songs come out of Lego? A metallic gold or silver Lego! Your co-worker HAS to love this, well unless they don’t have an IPod! $25

Where to buy: http://www.fredflare.com/

Easy right? Well if not don’t stress too much. After all, Jesus is the reason for the season and Jesus is LOVE, so any gift you give with love from the heart is truly the best gift of all!

'Tis The Season to Stay Healthy & Happy: Kira's Top 5 Tips for the Holidays

2009-12-17T22:37:00.002-05:00

Kira Buckley, Contributing Writer

This is a season filled with good cheer; unfortunately, it can also be a time when we experience a greater degree anxiety, putting more stress on our physical and mental health. If you’re not careful, this joyous time of the year can very easily become chaotic and frustrating. Let’s not forget the diet disasters lurking around every corner from Christmas cookies, eggnog, holiday cakes, and appetizers featuring anything and everything wrapped in bacon.

It's important that we learn to pass on many of those extra helpings of temptation and actively control our stress levels. This year, take care of yourself and your family using these tips for staying stress free and healthy during the holidays.

Healthy Holiday Tip#1 Stress shows no mercy, especially during the holidays. So, if you are the person cooking, party planning, tree trimming, carol singing, or has a lot of shopping to do, make a detailed schedule with a list of things needed for each event.

Healthy Holiday Tip#2: Stay calm. When you feel anxiety rising, take a deep breathe and hold it in for a ten count. Slowly release your breath, then take in another deep breath. Repeat this simple exercise three or four times, until you feel calm again. Remind yourself that you are only one person. You can’t do everything all at once or on your own. If you need help, ask for it. Do whatever it takes to keep yourself calm.

Healthy Holiday Tip#3: Stay healthy. Focus on your health during this holiday season and it will probably make a much bigger difference than you could ever imagine. Don’t get so caught up in the festivities that you forget to pay attention to what you eat. Stay away from too much junk food and nibbling throughout the day. It’s hard not to taste-test your dishes, but remember that every bite adds up to pounds and inches, that may not look to joyful in January.

Healthy Holiday Tip#4: Stay fit. Make a special effort to hit the gym as often as possible. The holidays are a stressful time and everyone is rushing around in a flurry of commotion. Stop and make time to stay fit. Even if you can only squeeze in a 30-minute workout twice a week, that’s better than nothing. You can work out a lot of your frustrations in a single 30-minute workout.

Healthy Holiday Tip#5: Stay happy. When you are stressed out, it is impossible to enjoy the spirit of the season. Just like laughter is contagious, so is a sad countenance. . Following the previous tips will keep you energetic and upbeat, but take time to enjoy conversations with friends and family members. Play games or watch your favorite movie. LAUGH, LAUGH, and LAUGH some more. It will certainly lighten your mental load.

Remember what makes this time of year special for you, and celebrate! Make new traditions, new friends, and most of all implement habits that will not only ensure a wonderful holiday season, but will also prepare you for a healthy and happy new year.

On Purpose w/Pastor Timothy Ross

2009-12-17T22:20:00.004-05:00

My Life's Mission & Purpose

I have been assigned to communicate the Bible in the most relevant way possible, to spiritually equip believers to do what God has placed in their hearts to do. Unlike my pastor, Bishop T. D. Jakes, who wears many hats, I’m more like a Chick-Fil-a; I sell chicken. It may be prepared in many different ways, but at the end of the day, it’s chicken. I am called to simply teach the gospel to those who have made a commitment to Jesus Christ, and show them how to live that life to the fullest. The mandate for this season of my ministry is not evangelism. Since conviction comes from the Holy Spirit, there isn’t much I can do with sinners except present Christ. His Spirit has to compel. In fact, I’m truly called to disciple others, regardless of where they may be on their Christian walk.

My Greatest Challenge

The biggest challenge I overcome is killing myself daily. The sinful nature in me is trying to kill my destiny as a new creature in Christ. Since the old me won’t just go away, I must crucify him daily. If there are 6 million ways to die, I am willing to try them all to live my life the way it was intended. Isaiah 54:17 assures us that no weapon formed against us will prosper and that the slanderous words and evil plots of our enemies will not prevail against us. I have authority in Christ Jesus! No enemy can take my authority away and no external forces can come get it; only the sinful nature that I haven’t pinned to the cross can disqualify me from receiving God’s promises.

Sources of Inspiration
My father, Charles Edward Ross, is a great inspiration to me. This man is an endless source of wisdom. I am grateful for my mother, Maxine Ross, and her prayer life. She had both knees surgically replaced as a direct result of the amount of time she has spent in prayer over the years. Her prayers kept guns that were pointed in my face from being fired, helped break the silence of molestation and an addiction to pornography, and has served as midwife to birthing me into the ministry that God has called me to. What I admire about my pastor, Bishop T.D. Jakes, is his ability to take risks. Once he hears God, he exercises such tremendous faith and gets results. I don’t have it like that yet. Maybe when I grow up, I will ask for it.

Lastly, Jack Hayford has lived a life that I gain so much encouragement and inspiration from. Once the pastor of the largest 4 Square Church denomination and the former chancellor of a renowned bible college, Hayford, now in his 70’s, is still a pastor of pastors. Approximately 8 months of every year, ministry leaders from all over the world fly to his home for 5 days to be mentored, taught and served. His life exemplifies what it means to maximize the most of each season in ministry, while remaining effective in each phase.

Words To Live By
One passage of scriptures that I live by is Romans 8: 11-13 NLT
The Spirit of God, who raised Jesus from the dead, lives in you. And just as he raised Christ from the dead, he will give life to your mortal body by this same Spirit living within you. So, dear brothers and sisters, you have no obligation whatsoever to do what your sinful nature urges you to do. For if you keep on following it, you will perish. But if through the power of the Holy Spirit you turn from it and its evil deeds, you will live.

How I Use My Gifts to Serve Others
Most people tend to focus on the miracles and manifestations of healing in Jesus’ ministry, but it’s often overlooked that scripture tells us that Jesus also went about doing good. I use the gifts and provisions that I have been blessed with to do just that. Many times, by simply doing good, people are able to see Christ more clearly than when we are preaching or teaching. I look for ways to be a blessing to others, from generously tipping servers, to calling and paying for a locksmith for a neighbor.

How I Stay on Track
I stay focused on my purpose by keeping the main thing the “main thing.” I’m called to communicate the gospel so I am always working on that. I spend most of my time strengthening my strengths vs. my weaknesses. I read the bible and work on perfecting the art of communication a lot. I read books and publications that use great imagery so that when I am speaking, I am able to paint a more vivid picture to my audience. I am also very careful about what engagements and offers I accept, understanding that just because I am capable or even proficient in doing a thing, doesn’t mean that it automatically furthers or helps me fulfill my God given purpose.

May I Have Your Attention Please
If I could communicate a message to a large audience, I would address it to all believers and followers of Christ.

“Stop trying to live right because you can’t. God never called you to live right; he called you to die right and allow Him to live right in you.”

Jesus On Purpose

2009-12-17T22:04:00.003-05:00

This issue we thought it most fitting to interview The Gift, the one we recognize as the real reason for the season, his name is Jesus! In all of our interviews, we ask the same series of questions in order to better understand the journey into purpose. The life of Christ is one that has brought a greater sense of purpose to the lives of millions over the ages. His realm of influence and impact is remarkably unparalleled.

How would you define your mission and purpose?
St. John 3:16 says it best. [For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.] I am the Gift of God. God loved you so much that He gave me to you as the ultimate sacrifice to pay the ransom of sin on your life. My life, death, and resurrection, grants those who accept and believe on me everlasting life.
Sure, I gave sight to the blind, strength to the lame, restored health, fed the hungry, but the real gift was my life. I laid it down, so that you could live again. My purpose in life was to die so that my spirit could live in you, empowering you to live like I lived, give like I gave and love like I loved. I came to show the world how to give the most valuable and meaningful gift, yourself.

What are some challenges, difficulties, and hardships you've overcome in the process of fulfilling your purpose?
I was tempted in all points, [Hebrews 4:15] yet without sin so the challenges and difficulties that each of you daily experience, I know all about them. I’ve dealt with loneliness, betrayal, sadness, people talking about me, lying on me, I’ve been misunderstood….sound familiar? But because I have already overcome the world [St. John 16:33] and the powers of this world, in me you will find the gift of victory [Romans 8:37] because in me there is no failure.

Who inspires you most and how?
What warms my heart the most is a positive response to the gift of eternal life. Everyone likes for the recipient of their gift to be appreciative. I love to see a person living out of the new heart they received when they accepted me. A life that is daily transforming and evolving to look more like the example of love that can only be found in God, because He is love. I am overjoyed to see people walk in the newness of life, with a rejuvenated spirit, boldly and enthusiastically exemplifying the message of salvation. I rejoice when I see individuals who are more concerned with leading others in to a true relationship with me and not simply a ritual with me.

What is your life defining passage of scripture or wisdom literature?
The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have [it] more abundantly. [John 10:10]
Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth. [3John 1:2]
His lord said unto him, Well done, good and faithful servant; thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy lord. [Matthew 25:23]
For with God nothing shall be impossible. [Luke 1:37]
Shall I continue?

Given your talents, passion, and values, how have you used these to serve others and positively impact your environment?
I used my entire life to serve. I was an example of how gifts are to be used in this world. Gifts are given to serve and edify others as this brings glory to our Father. I performed miracles, manifestations of healing and deliverance to minister to the needs of the sick, hurting, and oppressed. I washed my disciple’s feet to show them how to be a serving leader, reminding them that those who looked to be counted among the greatest would be those who served the most. [Matthew 23:11]

What are you doing to stay on your path?
My Path is complete. I fulfilled my work on Earth, but what kept me on that path was that I humbly submitted to the will of my Father, rather than yielding to the dictates of my own flesh (remember Gethsemane?) I stayed singular in purpose and I served others with joy.

My message to everyone: This year, you may not receive or be able to give the gifts that you desire, but this holiday season, take a moment to appreciate the rich treasure that you do possess. Become the gift! Serve one another with joy and share the love that I have for you with everyone you come in contact with.

Daily Nugget: Strong AND Mighty

2009-12-17T18:29:00.001-05:00

When many of us are asked about life's challenges, we say, "It's nothing," or "It's nothing I can't handle or get through." We are often told to "suck it up" or "get over it," forcing us to make light of the obstacles on our Call Path. There are four vital points to note here:

1) God reminds us that these things are called strongholds. That means that they are strong. So, it's okay to acknowledge that you are not up against a weak opponent.

2) What's even more relieving is acknowledging that you aren't all that strong. God lets us know that "the joy of the Lord is our strength" (Neh 8:10). Joy = strength? REALLY? Yes! For vessels that are weak, finding joy in the midst of life's challenges is the true sign of strength. Your true strength is not external but internal, not what you can lift but what you can handle.

3) God is also strong. That means God can also be our stronghold (Ps 9:9; 18:2) in times of trouble. There is a place of safety and peace in storms, which is how you can have peace in them.

4) God is strong AND mighty (Ps 24:8). Your situation is strong, but God is strong and mighty. Your heartbreak is strong, but God is strong and mighty. Your lack is strong, but God is strong and mighty. God is mighty to save, mighty to deliver, mighty to provide and mighty to heal. The Lord our God is mighty in battle. In your struggle, don't forget that God is still fighting for YOU!

Stop Sign

2009-12-16T19:15:00.000-05:00

Preserving the integrity of another's message preserves your integrity as a messenger.

Nugget of Wisdom: Dying In Fear

2009-12-16T05:18:00.001-05:00

For everything that exists, there is a corresponding fear. There are people who fear dogs, because they might bite. There are those who fear public speaking, because they might mess up at the mic. There are those who fear clouds, because it might rain. There are even those who fear love, because it might cause them pain.

I have found that there is a way to die and still be alive, just live in fear. What kind of existence is one lived in fear? If you live in fear of your greatness, you will never attain it. If you live in fear of success, you will never strive for it. If you live in fear of your potential, you will always aim lower. You will have breath, but you won’t be alive. The purpose God breathed into you will slowly pass away, and you will be stuck on life-support until you realize that yours is not a life of fear but of love, power and soundness of mind.

A Christmas Miracle at the River

2009-12-15T11:03:00.000-05:00

This proves that the power of God can turn a person's life around at any age or stage of development. Only Believe!

Life Begins at the Core: Honoring Your Creator with Healthy Living

2009-12-14T21:41:00.004-05:00

Picture This: You start out seeking to remove some unwanted body fat, because you realize that the mirror isn’t lying about how you look. As you go along, you can’t figure out why you keep stalling, getting frustrated and quitting. You lose a pound and then gain five more. With the holidays rapidly approaching, it can seem like there is no hope in sight. Well, the answer to your problem may be much simpler than you once believed. Nourishing the roots of your health by taking care of your core nutritional needs creates a strong foundation for your body and establishes a bank of resources to build, repair and fuel it. Living from the Core is a disciplined self therapy which brings body, mind and spirit together for a holistic approach to health and healing.

With more studies being done on holistic living, health and increasing the level at which you are in tune with your body, it is becoming more obvious that focusing on 'losing weight' is a major stumbling block in achieving your goal. Instead, making a conscious decision to choose total wellness is the best way to get the results you desire and maintain balance of the mind, body and spirit. Just as our Creator has fashioned you to operate with your ‘total’ body, you must live holistically, creating a strong sense of balance that leads to an external and internal healthy goal.

How strong is your Core? Most people are not aware that the core muscles are involved in every movement they make. From driving and looking over your shoulder, to cooking dinner and lifting your baby from the crib, most of your daily activities rely on your core muscles. The core muscles hold the hips and spine, keeping all the postural groups of the body in place. When the core muscles are weak, you are unable to do any movements properly. No matter how strong your other muscles are, if the core is not strong then the other muscles become strained and fatigued. Much of the common aches and pains many endure in their lower back, pelvic area, neck, head, abs, shoulders and more are a direct result of weakness and misalignment at their Core.

What is amazing is that no matter how far you stray from a centered and balanced life, you can turn it around by taking simple steps that have a positive effect on every area of your life. Start researching and implementing core strengthening workouts, like Pilates or yoga, practice breathing correctly from your diaphragm while doing abdominal exercises, and make time for daily meditation to stabilize your spiritual center. Stretch, breathe, de-stress, re-align, move, and dance from your Core. You will be astonished by how much better, taller and stronger you feel and how much more efficiently you perform your daily activities, play and live your life! Remember, life begins where our Creator dwells within us…at the Core!

Kira Buckley, Contributing Writer

What To Do When a Relationship Expires

2009-12-14T21:21:00.003-05:00

Everyone has been there once or twice. Your friend meets new friends, and you begin becoming best friends with yourself. It's not intentional, and, of course, it doesn't happen quickly. You wean yourself. You start noticing that you're not going as many places with your friend as you used to. The conversations you used to have are now dry. The memories you once shared can only be recalled by stumbling upon old pictures instead of "remember when" chats. Your friendship has evolved into a casual acquaintance, but that's not the problem; the problem is that you are OK with that.

And that's fine. In fact, congratulations! You may be experiencing growth! Not that it's a good excuse to end relationships. It is part of life.

The problem is when we stay in our friendships or other relationships because of habit. We get caught up in doing the same things every day, hanging out at the same time and going the same places. We talk about the same things and seem to identify with the same feelings. But at the end of the day, we feel empty and mistake these habits as our identity.

Then, something happens. During the shower or while in the car, we start to think! We start asking ourselves, "Why do I hang out with this person? Am I doing things I don't like doing just to be around this person? Who am I, and is this person helping me be the best me I can be?" This is awareness. Answering these questions might lead to terminating some of your relationships, or it could bring you closer.

Regardless, relationships are not going to stay the same as they started. We get older, wiser, and sometimes stupider. Some relationships only reflect who we are at the moment and die as soon as we change. Others constantly evolve for the better. It is fine that you aren't the same person you used to be. Your friend has probably changed too.

So when you see an old friend, don't be angry about the ended relationship. Smile, give them a pat on the back and be thankful that they helped usher you into a new awareness of yourself. Now, that's a true friend, even if they really aren't any longer.

Brandon Gillespie, Contributing Writer

A First Impression That Impresses

2009-12-14T21:12:00.005-05:00

You’ve probably heard these quotes before: “You never get a second chance to make a first impression” or “The first impression is the lasting impression.” Regardless of the thought that you should “never judge a book by its cover,” it’s human nature for us to base our opinion of a person on the first impression. Unfortunately, these first impressions can be the cause for many to be misjudged or disqualified as a potential employee, date, etc.

So how does one overcome such an unforeseen dilemma? Carefully plan your attire and accessories without overdoing it.
Gentlemen, it’s unnecessary to show up to an interview for a corporate job with “bling” on, unless it happens to be your wedding band. In addition to your attire, ensure that you’re freshly shaven with your hair combed nicely. Save the overpowering cologne for special romantic occasions. Have your materials together as well. Invest in a briefcase or a portfolio for your resumes, reference letters, examples of work, etc. And yes, please have your own pen!

Ladies, remember that you want to be seen as a respectful, intelligent and independent (potential) employee. That won’t be accomplished if you appear as if you’ve just made a pit stop while on your way to the club. Avoid clinging, tight fighting fabrics and outfits, as well as baring too much skin or cleavage. You want your interviewer and employer/colleagues to pay attention to you as a person and what you’re saying – not your body. The smallest things are observed (i.e. type of shoes you wear, color of lipstick, nail color, etc.), so how better to prepare for ultimate scrutiny than to make sure you look your best and, more importantly, look the part.

In today’s society of work from home mothers and fathers, under 30 executives, and the retiree generation returning to school, the preconceived images of said categories have changed drastically. You could be in Starbucks and have a green-haired young man on your right side who just happens to be the CEO of a software company; on your left side you might have an older woman who is about to start her shift.

Once you’ve “made” it to the point where no one can question your appearance, go crazy! Until then, be smart about your sartorial choices and remember it’s the little things that make a big difference.

Kenneth Hibbler, Contributing Writer

Nugget of Wisdom: Destiny Found in the Unfamiliar

2009-12-14T10:10:00.003-05:00

While looking for a stream on which to build a dam, a young beaver gets lost in the woods. She takes a minute and looks around but has no idea which way to go. Then, she looks up. An old owl is sitting in the tree. She calls out to him and asks, "Do you know where I can find the stream?" He clears his throat and says, "I know where it's not. It's not where you've been, so it must be where you haven't gone."

Many of us look around for answers to our destiny and our Call Path, but we end up with more questions than before. It's time to look up and receive the truth that your path is not found where you've been, but the surest path to your destiny is found in the unfamiliar. Don't be afraid to move forward.

Keep Holding On

2009-12-11T11:06:00.000-05:00

Avril Lavigne sings a powerful song of encouragement to those who may feel like letting go, reminding you that you can keep holding on, because you are never truly alone.

Nugget of Wisdom: Afraid of Greatness

2009-12-11T10:33:00.002-05:00

There is battle between a little boy, David, and a massive warrior, Goliath. It would seem as though David should be scared to fight a brute like Goliath, but instead, he stands in the face of Goliath without fear. How? He embraces the great power that is within him.

There is great power inside of us as well. It can be intimidating to know we wield such great potential; however, we will always fear others when we fear the greatness in ourselves. Once we acknowledge and embrace the power inside of us, we will begin to overcome the obstacles that stand in the face of our future. In the face of a giant, remember your greatness.

Nugget of Wisdom: When Loss Occurs

2009-12-09T11:25:00.006-05:00

When I lost my grandfather, I felt a void was left in the space he once occupied in my life. I was grief-stricken for some time. Now that I acknowledge loss as a natural part of path progression, I realize anger was mixed in with my sorrow. I was sad that I lost my grandfather, but I was also angry that he left me, his grandson.

Whether we lose a person, job or any other element in our lives, when we experience loss two natures rise in us: grief and pride. Grief emerges out of what it meant to us; pride emerges due to what we meant to it. Grief occurs when you think of the end of your relationship; pride occurs when you think of the end of your ownership. We control or own nothing but ourselves, so when we lose something, we should focus on the purpose and not the possession of what we once had.

Nugget of Wisdom: Closed Hearts Die

2009-12-07T11:33:00.001-05:00

The heart is an organ that pumps blood delivering life-sustaining oxygen and nutrients to 300 trillion cells in your body. If the blood flow to your heart ever becomes blocked, you will suffer what is known as a heart attack. The longer it stays blocked, the higher your potential for death becomes.

What happens physiologically happens emotionally as well. We all suffer heart attacks (breaks) at one point or another. Just don't allow the breaks to become a barrier to the future flow of love in your life. If a heart is broken, it can heal, but if a heart is closed, it will die.

God Always Leaves You With Enough

2009-12-05T10:22:00.000-05:00

Despite what you've lost, what may have been stolen, what you wasted, took for granted, discounted or rejected, shortcomings, deficits, seasons of lack... just remember, whatever you have left is enough to start again... God ALWAYS leaves you with enough.

Help Me Believe

2009-12-04T21:45:00.004-05:00

This is one of my favorite songs from Kirk Franklin. It's an honest and heart felt plea. I hope that you find inspiration and hope in its message.

The Sweet Taste of a Job Well Done

2009-12-02T13:18:00.002-05:00

What is better than the satisfaction of a job well done? Whether finishing an intense workout, completing a home improvement project, or even a great performance, accomplishing any goal where real effort has been expended, produces the sweet taste of a job well done.

I remember the first time I tried a Gatorade. I would see people go in convenience stores and pick from the bottles of what looked like colored water and I would wonder what it tasted like. One hot summer day I decided to follow a group of construction workers' lead and grab one. Admittedly I was kind of excited because I was about to find out what all the hype was about. I remember how disappointed I was as I waited for this intense burst of grape flavor to register on my taste buds, when all I got was a faint taste of what seemed like watered down koolaide. I remember asking someone later why they even wasted their money on such a lackluster product, to which he replied, "Well they only taste good and quench your thirst after you've done something. "

It wasn't until a few weeks later, after playing tennis and sweating profusely that I began to fully understand what he meant. A friend of mine handed me something to drink and I was so thirsty that I didn't even look to see what I was drinking. As I downed the entire bottle, I remember feeling refreshed, as my energy was being restored. Revived, I thanked him and commented on how good it was and how it had hit the spot. Then I looked down at the empty Gatorade bottle and I was reminded of the stranger's words..."They only taste good and quench your thirst after you've done something."

Like me, many people find themselves discontented and disatisfied with the amount of success they have experienced in life. At times, the victories and accomplishments never seem good enough. Perhaps, like me, you tried to enjoy the sweet taste of success without the effort, discipline, and endurance necessary to create it.

What's My Point?
Personal satisfaction isn't transferrable and can't be borrowed. There is no substitute for hard work.The rewards of your labor, much like the revitalizing agents in Gatorade, are only activated when you do something. Don't settle for a hint of success when you could experience its fullness by applying yourself and staying committed to achieving your goals.

Nugget of Wisdom: Let Faith Work Then Work Faith

2009-12-02T10:52:00.001-05:00

Before a bird leaps from a branch to soar through the air, the bird first breathes in that air. Before a fish begins to start swimming through the ocean waters, the fish first breathes in that water. The only way birds and fish thrive in their environment is by taking it in and working what's in it.

Faith works the same way in us. Before you can walk or run into new faith ventures, you first must let faith override the fear in you and then use that faith to thrive in your enviroment. Let faith work in you, and then work in your faith.

Nugget of Wisdom: Power In Purpose

2009-11-30T11:03:00.001-05:00

When you were young, there were all kinds of things to fear: the dark, monsters, even artichokes...lol. You were afraid because those things were unfamiliar and you were uncertain of your potential in the presence of them. As an adult, there are still many things you can fear: debt, layoffs, failure and loneliness.

However, the same power that you possessed when you realized there was no monster under your bed is the same power that is in someone who recognizes their purpose. You have to power to have peace in darkness and in storms. There is so much more to say about the power in you, but for now know that you’ll laugh at your fears when you realize the true power in your purpose.

Nugget of Wisdom: Helping Others

2009-11-27T11:04:00.001-05:00

A business man sees a young lady fall ahead of him. On her back, she looks and sees him approaching. She begins to cry out, "Sir, can you help me?" Without a word, he points to his watch and begins to walk past her. However, he is soon lying next to her on the ground. Rolling onto his side, he looks at her and asks, "Why didn't you tell me there was black ice here?" She responds, attempting to get to her feet, "You were in too much of a hurry to help."

The Relevant Truth: Helping others helps you.

Nugget of Wisdom: Give Thanks

2009-11-25T16:55:00.000-05:00

Giving thanks is the purest sign of intelligence, so this Thanksgiving be smart and give thanks for your life, your journey and everything associated with it. You have more to be thankful for than you could ever know.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Nugget of Wisdom: Humble Beginnings

2009-11-17T17:59:00.001-05:00

None of us are born walking. In fact, when we are born we are defenseless, naive and ignorant to the reality that we have entered. Yet, despite how much we don't know or possess, our guardians still have great expectations that one day we will walk.

Since most of us accomplish this, it is safe to say that a humble beginning shouldn't be the deterrent to success, but it should be the motivation that promotes great expectation. Don't doubt and deviate from destiny because of deficiency. If God indeed exalts the humble, then God exalts humble beginnings. Only believe!

Relevant Text: 1 Peter 5:6 (Amplified Bible)
Therefore humble yourselves [demote, lower yourselves in your own estimation] under the mighty hand of God, that in due time He may exalt you.

On Call: I Need More

2009-11-11T11:58:00.002-05:00

I am 31 years old and have been attending the same church for my entire life. My father is a bishop and the pastor. Although there are many aspects of the ministry that I love, I am not getting the spiritual nourishment that I need. It's not that what my father is preaching is wrong, but it is just so predictable. The only thing different about the messages that he preaches now and when I was growing up is the date on the cd or dvd. How do I tell my father that I am going to look for another church without him taking it personal? Obviously, someone is getting what they need from his preaching and teaching or else the church would be empty. I just need more! In my situation, is conflict unavoidable?

I Need More - in TX

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Dear I Need More,
It's pretty safe to assume that some level of conflict is unavoidable. However, don't fret. One definition for conflict is simply a disagreement. While the situation you find yourself in could potentially excalate beyond a simple disagreement, be careful not to approach him with a defensive attitude. Its better to handle this with humility and sensitivity. For many parents who also happen to be pastors to their children, over time the two become so intertwined that they can't clearly distinguish the difference. It is important that your father is clear that in finding a new church home that better suites your spiritual needs that it doesnt mean that he has lost your respect or support. Ecc. 3:1 says To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. Those times and seasons are not set but us, our parents, or anyone else.

Employ the prayers of your father as you embark upon this new spiritual journey. Because you go in a spirit of meekness and humility, if by chance your leaving the church is a mistake, you will have left in such a way that should make returning fairly easy. In the end there is no way to fully know how he will respond or react to your decision or this conversation. However, you still have a personal responsibility to follow what you believe you are being lead to do. To stay for any other reason besides the fact that YOU believe you are supposed to be there will ultimately not be enough (in the long run) to keep you there. If the truth be told, a portion of the people at your father's church probably came from or grew up in some one else's church. He, no doubt, came from another ministry to lead or create this one. That said, he would have no church without people who responded to their spirit's cry for something more than what they were getting. Continue to be there for your father and pray for him, but do what needs to be done.

Clogged Tub

2009-11-02T11:30:00.004-05:00

What only took seconds to drain in the past was almost up to my calf muscles. I checked the stop and it was up. Uggh...The tub was clogged. There had been no gradual change, no warning that there was about to be a problem. This awareness snuck up on me like a heart attack....so abrupt and unexpected.

I did what most of us do. I got frustrated and then tried to ignore it. Then I blamed it on the soap or perhaps the neighbors who had put something in their sink or tub and it was causing a massive back up for all of us... stupid neighbors.

Two showers after that, I noticed the tub started getting dirtier because the water had more time to sit and leave its dingy residue. Common sense would have told me to go to the store and purchase some solution that could remove the build up and blockage. Actually, common sense did tell me to do that but it took almost a week and a half for me to actually go 1.5 miles down the street, to the store, to spend no more than 3 dollars.

In the interim period, I cleaned the tub out after every shower. Right after my last shower of insanity, I noticed that it took almost 15 minutes for that standing water to completely drain.

Sometimes, it seems, problems come out of no where, catching us off guard and unprepared. Sometimes we even know how to fix the problem, or how to remove the obstruction or hindrance from our path. However, instead of doing exactly that, we come up with "work arounds" and "quick fixes" that ultimately cost us more in time, energy, and effort.

Ultimately, it took only HALF the time it had been taking the water to drain, to clean out the plumbing (my plumbing) that was actually causing the problem.

My next shower was soooooo much more enjoyable because their was no standing water at all. When I turned the water off, all of it immediately drained.

What's My Point?
Remember that although you may not always expect or want to deal with a problem, it's best to face it AND handle it the right way. Often when you don't:

1. You don't take responsibility
2. Blame others for YOUR problems
3. Your situation gets messy
4. Your life loses its natural flow
5. You waste valuable time

Nugget of Wisdom: What Do You Do With It?

2009-10-29T19:30:00.000-04:00

Have you ever had a great idea or vision, but just didn't have the immediate resources to make it happen? Illness, poverty, lack of degree or pedigree can make you feel like you shouldn't even try to make your dream a reality.

A childhood illness caused Helen Keller to grow up blind and deaf, but she became a famous author and political activist. Lance Armstrong was diagnosed with cancer, but didn't let his diagnosis stop him from being a seven time Tour de France winner. During 27 years of imprisonment, Nelson Mandela continued to fight against apartheid, and he lived to see the practice overturned and become President of South Africa.

What are we to learn from these individuals? It doesn’t matter what you start with; what matters is what you do with what you have.

Much Life and Love,

Byron Jamal

Nugget of Wisdom: Weighted Not Worthless

2009-10-22T11:31:00.000-04:00

Last Thanksgiving I ate the most I think I have ever eaten in my life. I had so much on my plate that the food seemed to all run together. All that food made the plate and eventually my stomach feel weighted. That food made me feel sluggish, and I caught a case of the...you know what.

Isn't this what happens to us in our lives? We pile so much stuff on the plate of our lives that our lives are weighed down with busyness, mistakes and failures. Some of the stuff is healthy, but most of it is drenched in nasty, life-clogging grease. What is the grease? The grease is simply the stuff that you know is making you feel weighted and sluggish. You wonder why you are sluggish in classes, sluggish in relationships, and sluggish at work...you're weighted.

The simple truth is that while you may feel weighed down you're not worthless. All the junk of your life that seems to weigh you down doesn't negate your worth. Let me pose it like this: Is a diamond in the dirt still worth the same as a diamond in a jewelry store? YES!!!! One's just weighed down by dirt and the other free. You're worth the same whether you're weighed down or free. Let me try it one more way: Junk in your truck doesn't decrease the value of your vehicle! While your trying to get stuff out the trunk of your life REMEMBER: You're weighted not worthless.

Much Life and Love,

Byron Jamal